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An All New Meaning To The Fathers’ Day…

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This Fathers’ Day has come with an all new meaning for me; I have become a father myself. My son, Rajvir, was born on June 6. Life has changed in last ten days and how! And the world of becoming a father has dawned upon me…

All these years of my life, I merrily played the role of being my father’s son. A much loved son, who was given everything he asked for, and more… one who was pampered and cared for… one, who was blessed… So naturally, every Fathers’ Day would come as an excuse for me to send him loads of gifts, coupled with an assurance of always following what he taught me and being by his side. Baba, as I would address my father, was and is an inspiration to me; I learnt many things from him. In fact, on the occasion of last Fathers’ day, I wrote about the 5 life lessons that I learnt from my father.

Two Fathers Two SonsThat said, this Fathers’ day, I am rather overwhelmed! Life has changed dramatically – Baba is not there with me AND Rajvir has come in my life. Today, I am both – a son and a father…

Generally, I am good with words, never struggled with them… However, since my son is born, I am grappling for right words to narrate the experience… Many of friends, family members and others ask me – how did it feel to see him being born or that how does it feel to be a father, et al. I am short of words, really. It was a strange emotion to witness the child-birth; nothing short of a miracle! In fact, I confided in a friend a few days ago, If you want to make any atheist believe in God’s existence, howsoever ardent non-believer he is, make him witness a baby being born; he will start believing in His creations…” 

While I am still pleasantly surprised by how great it feels to belong to the category of fathers, I miss my father terribly. What would I say to my father on this Fathers’ Day? I just hope as Rajvir was getting ready to commence his journey from the gates of heaven towards our world down here, Baba would have whispered the same values in his ears, ones which I grew up learning from him. That, I am sure, will be his most valuable gift to his son on this Father’s day, on the beginning of his own fatherhood…

Rajvir’s smiles tell me, today may well be my best Fathers’ Day ever…

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5 Life Lessons I Learnt From My Father…

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Fathers DayBaba, as I would affectionately call my father, taught me a lot of things; just as any father would to his son. And some of these things became a part of my character, my overall being. Some of them were really basic things, while few had deeper meaning, which I took many years to understand and value. Now that Baba resides in his heavenly abode, this is the first Father’s Day I am spending without him around. And since morning I am reminded of all those learning and values he instilled in me…

  • He taught me the value of compassion as bedrock of character. He would tell me, “There are so many of us who aren’t as lucky as you are; help those whom you can and don’t wait for someone to invite you do ‘charity’. If you have it, it is imperative for you to share it. Do good, as it is the right thing to do.”
  • Staying organized was another invaluable lesson I learnt from him. Baba was an impeccably organized person, not only his work and business, but also in his daily life. Filing papers neatly, keeping records, organizing his personal stuff and keeping everything in a planned manner in his cupboard; whether a to-do list or simply packing a bag – he was as orderly as it can get. Long before I learnt the power of ‘5-S’ – the incredible Japanese principle of organization, Baba had inculcated this habit in me.
  • The power of dressing properly – a concept that now does circles in the corporate corridors as ‘Power Dressing’ – was another life-long skill I learnt by watching him. He was a man of style! Crisp, starched shirts, flawlessly ironed trousers and always in place hairstyle – not a thing out of place. He appeared as well dressed when he would return from work in evening as he would that morning! And I remember how he would see to it personally that my school-shirts are really sparkling white and not pale! He had a great sense of choosing & managing his clothing and never confused style with brands. With a sharp eye for detail and cut, he was always ‘in place’. A learning that I use to my advantage, though I secretly wish I were really as cool & classy as he were…
  • “Never let the colour of money colour your lens of viewing the world”, he would say. He taught me the lesson of managing tough times with ease and prosperity with unpretentiousness. Money was only means to him and not an end. And from him I learnt to value people and personal bonds over money, and I am glad to acquire this one lesson in the material world we live in.
  • “Trust others. People are generally warm and good hearted”; he taught me this right from the very childhood. And this was one value I learnt more by observing his actions; he would trust instinctively and place his faith in good intentions of people around him. To him, doubting others wasn’t a natural trait. And not that he hadn’t at times face the brunt of trusting so easily, he would still keep his faith intact in people’s intentions. I guess, it was the same positivity and authenticity that in return earned him the faith and in trust of so many people I know. One trait, which I would like to believe, helped me become a better people leader now…

Lord knows I miss my father. Now that he isn’t there with me, I live everyday of my life living up to the values he inspired in me. I guess, this Father’s Day, that is my gift to him…

Here’s wishing all the Dads in this world – a very happy Father’s Day.

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